Date: Fri, 9 Dec 1994 10:26:51 EST From: BETTY LOU GOODWIN Subject: Re: born in a barn People, parents in particular, use manners as a way to instill their own set o f values in their children. Over time, the underlying messages often become vague. However, I do not believe that all manners are just meaningless jargon. Many teach us valueable lessons in life. Such as "Don't walk under ladders". When people are using ladders then people under them could be hit by flying objects. Therefore, the phrase does teach a valueable lesson even if the parents have forgotten why they teach it.