End of ADS-L Digest - 21 Oct 1997 to 22 Oct 1997
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Subject: ADS-L Digest - 22 Oct 1997 to 23 Oct 1997
There are 35 messages totalling 906 lines in this issue.

Topics of the day:

 1. thank you . . . thank you (4)
 2. "Bless you" (was "Good morning") (5)
 3. Bless You (2)
 4. politeness
 5. RE>Re: "Bless you" (was "Good morning") (2)
 6. The compassionate "Bless you"
 7. Politeness (Was: Bless You) (3)
 8. "Bless you" (was "Good morning")
 9. sociolinguistic competence (3)
 10. whole nuther ballgame (2)
 11. Damned if you do, damned if you don't (2)
 12. the mindlessness of "bless you"
 13. the world is going to the currs (2)
 14. Thank you, ....de nada
 15. Blendings in Festival Names
 16. <No subject given>
 17. - no subject (01IP5OGNV35Q8X2EE4) -
 18. prayers and involuntary bodily ejaculations
 19. hello/good-bye

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Date:  Thu, 23 Oct 1997 00:59:54 -0400
From:  Jim Crotty <Monkmag[AT SYMBOL GOES HERE]AOL.COM>
Subject: Re: thank you . . . thank you

In a message dated 10/22/97 3:07:38 PM, you wrote:

<<Susann,

   I agree that society does not take the time to be polite or
courteous anymore. Today, everyone is in such a hurry to get everything
done, that they overlook the people around them. No one is polite
anymore. There are no more 'excuse me's or 'you're welcome's. It's a
rare occurence to have a gentleman open the door for a lady anymore and
when he does the lady no longer says 'thank you'. People no longer care
about common courtesy or improving a stranger's day with a kind smile. A
few nice words here and there can make a huge difference in someone's
day, but it doesn't seem to matter anymore. Any opinions on this are
welcome. I would love to hear what everyone thinks about the lack of
formality in society today.


Melissa S. Smith
mssmit01[AT SYMBOL GOES HERE]morehead-st.edu>>

Complete generalization. I open doors for "ladies" all the time. And some of
them thank me, and some of them don't. I meet brusque, controlling,
completely uncivil women, and brusque, controlling, completely uncivil men. I
also meet plenty of the opposite. One's own attitude is often the key factor
in the response one gets.

This age is eclectic. You can find every sort of formality, every sort of
informality... some disingenuous, some sincere....

As one says in the hood... "it's all good."