Date:  Thu, 23 Oct 1997 08:55:20 -0600
From:  Andrew & Diane Lillie <diandy[AT SYMBOL GOES HERE]BYU.EDU>
Subject: Politeness (Was: Bless You)

On the topic of politeness, I believe the real debate is a difference in
the definition of what is "polite." To some, being polite means
following traditions like saying "you're welcome" and making small
talk. For others, it means minding your own business. When I was in
Africa recently, I got hit by a difference in definition for
"politeness" when I didn't say "thank you" along with EACH "yes" or
"no." Among other things, I was considered quite impolite for switching
my fork from left to right hand after cutting meat. The difference
wasn't actual "politeness," but what was considered polite in a certain
society.